Not everything that calms down is true

Mindfulness as a relationship, not as a form

Certification Work by Sandra Milosavljević,
a Participant of the Mindfulness Intensive Training
from Dr. Darko Cvetković in Serbia

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This text is part of a certification assignment within the Mindfulness Intensive program.

The author, Sandra Milosavljević, is a participant of the Mindfulness Intensive program, and this speech emerged as a personal reflection and integration of knowledge, experience, and practice throughout the education.

The text does not present a theoretical explanation of mindfulness, but rather an authentic, personal insight into the relationship with awareness, nervous system regulation, and presence - as it is truly lived, not merely learned.

We are publishing it in full as an example of the depth of the process participants go through during the program, and as inspiration for all who feel that classical forms of “calming down” do not suit everybody and every system.

There is a kind of silence that does not calm but constricts.

And there is a kind of movement that does not accelerate but liberates.

Mindfulness is often taught as a path to peace. 
As slowing down.
As descending. 
As closing the eyes and breathing correctly.

And all of that is true. For some.

But it is not the whole truth.
Because not every nervous system is called in the same way. And not everybody is meant to find presence in stillness.

Some people, when they sit, begin to disappear. 
When they close their eyes, they become louder inside. 
When they try to calm down, they activate even more strongly.

And this is not a failure of practice. 
It is information. 
Milton Erickson knew that resistance is not removed. 
Resistance is listened to. 
Because resistance already knows where the exit is.

Mindfulness is not a technique. 
Mindfulness is a relationship. 
A relationship with what is, not with what should be.

For some, presence is calm water. 
For some, wind. 
For some, walking. 
For some, rhythm. 
For some - speed that knows where it is going.

And when the body moves with permission, the mind stops fighting. 
When the system is respected, regulation arrives on its own.

There is a great misconception that awareness is measured by calmness. 
But true awareness is measured by honesty. 
By how willing we are to see ourselves as we are, not as we would fit in better.

Because sometimes the greatest presence is not in silence, but in contact.

Not in stopping, but in precise movement. 
And then a paradox occurs: 
When the attempt to calm down stops, calm appears. 
When control stops, trust appears. When fixing stops, balance appears.

Mindfulness does not ask that everyone calm down in the same way. 
Mindfulness asks that each person be exactly there where their system says they are alive.

For some, that is the breath. 
For some, a gaze. 
For some, a step. 
For some, a dance.

And when this is acknowledged, practice ceases to be a form and becomes truth.
Because the point is not to descend if we are not ready to walk. 
Nor to fly if we are fleeing the ground.

The point is to find our natural way of being here.

And when that happens, there is no longer a need for proving or explaining. 
Because the body knows. 
And mindfulness only listens.

Author: Sandra Milosavljević

Program: Mindfulness Intensive In-Me 
Institute: Energy House-Serbia 
Trainer: Dr Darko Cvetković  - Mindfulness Master Trainer In-Me  
Status: Certification Assignment (Author’s Speech)

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